Are you looking for a map to organize your disorganized inner world?
Or are you trying to find ways to deal with feeling overwhelmed or shut down?
The stress of healing
Everyone healing trauma feels disorganized and confused. For many this kind of disorientation happens until they learn how to sort out all the many pieces of their inner world.
Confused?
One of the great difficulties of trauma is we are left confused, disoriented, and lost; uncertain which direction to go in.
Worst of all we don’t feel comfortable in our own bodies, hearts and minds.
Life doesn't make sense!
Most people who are dealing with stress, trauma, and relationship issues want to make sense of what's going on.
That’s what the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills are all about: organizing what’s confusing and disorienting so you can live a more satisfying and fulfilling life.
The BSE Skills are designed to help calm your body, relax your nervous system, and feel safe in your own skin.
"Get better faster..."
Years ago, when I first designed and created the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills™ Groups, my colleague, Janina Fisher, referred all her clients to the group.
She said her clients "Get better faster" after engaging with the group.
I want the same for you.
I want you to have the experience of calming your body, soothing your heart and training your mind to go where you want it to go instead of where your history propels you.
Healing from life's difficulties is hard. That’s true.
It takes longer than any of us would ever want it to.
The Becoming Safely Embodied Skills™ are practices to help you do exactly what the name suggests: become safely embodied.
20 years strong!
Over the last twenty years the BSE skills have helped thousands of people all over the world.
It's been mostly word of mouth. One person tells another how the skills have helped them.
โwe are deliberately and consciously changing our livesโ
"You know, Deirdre, your words, ‘we are deliberately and consciously changing our lives’ are fundamentally important to trauma survivors. Trauma left us with no control whatsoever. At the mercy of the trauma. Utterly helpless.
How miraculous it is to read your words and know, from one (you) who has worked with the practice so intensely, that we can change our lives.
We do not have to live ever subservient to the trauma as it replays its destructive cycle.
To know and believe we can choose to change is to me a miracle.
I know in the BSE you refer to ‘choice points’. I have often reminded myself that there are choice points every day I survive. Sometimes I pop post-it notes around to remind me, sometimes I light a candle of thanks and open to Spirit with gratitude."
~ Bunchy - UK
Practice at your own pace
Simple practices make the concepts applicable to your life, in ways that work for you. No rush. No agenda, except to help you find a way through.
Make sense of the mess inside
Our inner world can be confusing.
The BSE Skills are designed to untangle the bits and pieces so it all makes sense.
Healing naturally emerges as you integrate.
One step at a time
The BSE Skills help you deconstruct difficult moments into small, manageable steps which help you understand what happened.
You are designed to grow and develop
Nature has set us up to keep growing. We are NOT stuck! Our native impulse is to grow and become who we really are.
The BSE Skills were created to use difficulty as a tool to keep stepping us along. The only problem is no one gave us the manual! That's where the BSE Skills come in.
Helpful steps made it easy to understand and follow the process
"Thanks for your helpful re-cap of the steps you take to stay calm and centered and your emphasis on practice, so that it all comes naturally in times of distress."
~ Mary [Dallas, USA]
Grounded in research
Every skill we practice dovetails with important research to shift traumatic patterns. Research becomes a foundation for experiential learning - all to make your life easier.
Practical, concrete skills
You'll learn simple, easy to apply skills to use everyday of your life to support the healing you want.
Thanks again for your inspiring and life changing work.
"I received your latest newsletter and was reminded of the massive shift you helped me with about 3 years ago. I was on your BSE online course, used the materials. It truly was a revelation that my body had sensations, which were different from emotions- I still come back to this in my life now.
I still struggle from time to time, but life is so much better than it was. So much better. We do recover."
~Wayne [UK}
Yes, it's true. Life can be different. Join us for the next BSE Skills Course.
Make sense of your inner world
Instead of life being confusing or chaotic, people and events will start to make more sense as you practice the BSE skills.
Signposts
Learn the simple building blocks that make up every single moment. Once you know what they are, it's easier to tease them apart.
Triggers
Living in a triggered body is incredibly difficult. We'll spend time separating out the components of getting triggered so you can live in a calmer body.
Dissociation
Knowing your dissociation pattern gives you a chance to both understand and shift things.
Grow, Develop & Flourish
Life can be easier. Practicing the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills will make life circumstances easier to be with. You'll learn practical skills to help you untangle what was difficult - making it easier to be with and learn from.
The videos helped make sense of what happens
"I was re-watching one of the videos from the course, finding them so helpful in making sense of what happens. I had such a strong feeling of, yes, that's exactly the chaotic horrible states I keep falling into over and over...it's just like that. Anyway it helped me calm down seeing it so clearly depicted!"
~Teresa [New York, USA]
BSE Modules: What we'll cover
Five modules will guide you to a solid, steady inner world
Module 1. What the Heck is Going On In There?
Learn how your history affects your body, mind, heart, and soul. Gain perspective and organize inner chaos.
Most of us, when overwhelmed by life, get jumbled inside, making it feel like a big mess. We can't slow down our mind, our thoughts race, our bodies, well, it's usually our nerves feel like they are going to explode out of our skin. Or the only recourse is to shut down, crawl into our beds and not come out again.
This module explores the basic building blocks of each and every moment to untangle the moment so we can feel grounded and steady.
Module 2: Separating Facts from Feelings
What creates chaos? Why do we get disorganized? What control do we have over the process?
With an understanding of some of the basic brain functions we'll explore how to create more internal space and how you can put a wedge into experiences that numb or overwhelm you.
This skill is one you'll use over and over again.
Module 3: Parts of Ourselves
A helpful tool to understanding your internal psychology is to develop abiding and integrating relationships with the various parts of you that are holding different perspectives, interests, memories...all holding a positive intent to protect, serve, and guard against painful internal and external intrusions.
The more we are able to do that the more we can sit in our true nature: calm, compassionate, kind, considerate, caring, and thoughtful. The positive qualities are endless and worthy of cultivating.
Module 4: Triggers
This is one of the skills people tell me they use over and over again: learning how to deconstruct the triggering that happens. One of the most painful realities is when you get triggered, when you're catapulted into fear, terror, panic, or want desperately to numb against something.
As you use the Parallel Lives to map out your internal psychological territory you'll find yourself less prone to being ambushed.
Module 5: Finding Choice Points
One of the best realizations in life is when you know you can alter the course of your life; by that I mean you learn that you're not stuck.
This module in the Becoming Safely Embodied Course helps you learn to harness your energy and go where you want to go instead of being propelled somewhere by your history.
I appreciate the insight and great care with which you respond
"Thanks for your very thoughtful responses. I appreciate the insight and great care with which you respond. I appreciate being “gotten” in this way as so much of the burden of the depression and dark parts is feeling so isolated with it. Practicing the skills I feel more connected with others who share the difficult experiences. Helps me realize none of us are alone with it. Much to ponder and be grateful for."
~Katherine [USA]
Here's what you get when you register!
The BSE online skills course starts soon. The content is available to you 24/7 as it is released; over the course of five consecutive Fridays, new modules will be distributed.
LIVE Video Calls with Deirdre
Putting the BSE Sklls into practice is my primary goal. Each year I reassess how to make the course even better. This year I'll be meeting with you LIVE online to coach you and make the BSE Skills even more accessible.
Audios & Videos to Make Concepts More Understandable
Each gets to the heart of the module, designed to help you to understand and use the material.
These videos are designed to take complicated information and make it easy to understand -- and better yet, easy to apply!
BSE Course Handouts
Each week you'll receive handouts corresponding to the material which will help you make the skills your own.
Having handouts allows you to learn in another way, further internalizing the information - making it accessible when you really need it.
Group Wisdom & Mentoring
Your questions and comments spark other people’s questions and insights...and as a whole group we learn and develop together. I want to give you the support to put the skills to work in your life.
In addition, you'll get important feedback and mentoring from people who have integrated the BSE Skills into their lives.
Self-paced
You'll get the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills Course delivered to you for five Fridays in a row, one module at a time. You'll get the material and be able to work on it when it works for you, 24/7.
My goal is to help you learn the skills to have the life you want and to be with you as you apply the skills to your life. I want you to feel free to find ways to make the skills your own.
Deirdre's coaching
I'll be with you every step of the way to see how you are doing. Your questions assist me in helping you to integrate. Plus, your questions spark other people's questions so we all learn and develop together.
It's important to me to give you the support you need so you can put the skills to work in your life. So your life can be better.
I really loved the framework you have provided to deal with triggers
"I really loved the framework you have provided to deal with triggers. I know it will be helpful to me personally when triggered and for my clients when I share your framework with them. Thank you, I am really enjoying the material that you are sharing with us."
~Barbara [Australia]
Unlock the secrets to healing trauma
Deirdre's input and coaching putting the BSE skills into action will let you see why people say they "Get better faster with the BSE."
Take advantage of this time to engage with Deirdre, using the material, reflecting, asking questions and getting responses from her and others who are skilled in shifting their lives.
You'll benefit from everything Deirdre has learned teaching the BSE skills to thousands of people across the globe who have shifted their debilitating trauma symptoms, transforming into a better life.
Registration Information
The Becoming Safely Embodied Skills Course is delivered to your email five Fridays in a row. Each week you'll get an email from Deirdre letting you know the new material is up and waiting for you! And you can access it when you wish, 24/7. This way you can move through the course material at a pace that works for you. The course material is there for you when you have time. Plus you can return to it again and again over the course of six months. You're always welcome to download the material and that is yours forever.